*skip to the resources if you’ve read this before—or read it again for a reboot
In a world where information overwhelms us at a seemingly exponential rate, where life appears to get busier by the day—we can literally get lost in the noise of it all and life on autopilot very quickly evolves to life on auto-ignore. And then the meaning and fulfillment that we are all wired for no longer feels like a rationale aspiration—instead becomes a luxury that we will get to on that elusive someday when.
With HAPPY FRIDAY, we attempt to break the cycle in a reasonable and incremental way. The reality is no one is sitting around on their hands with nothing to do. So being realistic and measured is only prudent if we hope to succeed in knowing ourselves and understanding what we really want again (or maybe for the first time). The list of resources here is not meant to be consumed in its entirety—dig into ONLY what resonates with you (and that will change as you change) and SKIP the rest. We hope this information will be helpful to you in your journey towards, not your best self now, but your BETTER self now.
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 The Happiness Project >>> Written by Gretchen Rubin about Gretchen Rubin’s year of experimenting with different tactics for happiness. The book is a little like the So Much More Better page in that Gretchen doesn’t prescribe her own experience to anyone else. It’s more of a “here’s what I tried and I hope something or some things will resonate with you to help on your own journey toward happiness”. I’m also posting her podcast this week down below under AUDIO CONTENT.
 Brain Rules >>> This book is from one of the smartest guys I’ve ever been in the same room with—I think my IQ went up just be being in his presence! I sat through a Q&A with John Medina several years back and was blown away by his thinking, his brilliance—super smart! This book offers 12 principles to help us survive and thrive at work, home, or school. BONUS for Mother’s Day: Brain Rules for Baby a version of the original book aimed at raising a smart and happy child from zero to five.
 Learned Optimism >>> Martin Seligman is owed a GREAT debt in my humble opinion. He is the father of positive psychology. This book is a practical guide to creating a more optimistic mindset. And if you’ve been following along, you know that So Much More Better is all about the internal and how we respond to and approach life—positivity is a huge key to a happy, meaningful, and engaged life.
 10% HAPPIER >>> This book from Dan Harris is another look at the modern benefits of the ancient practice of meditation—how mindfulness can improve both mental and physical aspects of our lives, as proven by science and countless personal experiences. If you are still a skeptic, you’re in good company, Dan Harris was, too!
 Sleep Revolution >>> Arianna Huffington penned this book after a frightful night, where she woke up bloodied after collapsing at her desk from lack of sleep. The subtitle is—Transforming Your Life, One Night at a Time—fits the SMMB goal pretty nicely, I think. This book is a much deeper dive to what I posted this week under OTHER TOOLS regarding sleep—check out what I wrote below for a little more detail on the importance of sleep.
 The Entitlement Cure >>> John Townsend brings us a direct, to the point message on self-responsibility. This was marketed as a book to help people deal with the entitled people in their lives, but there’s a clever twist in that it speaks to helping us deal with the ways we might be living with entitlement in our own lives—hopefully it isn’t missed. The basic idea is that we are all responsible for how we respond to the world around us. Entitlement can rob us from a life that is filled with purpose, meaning, and ultimately happiness. Entitlement gives us permission to place responsibility (aka blame) on others for our circumstances, but only we have the agency and power to live more positively and proactively—happier.
 How Emotions Are Made >>> A book from Lisa Feldman Barrett, a neuroscientist, psychologist, and author. Her studies focus on emotion. Her theory, backed by rigorous scientific evidence, is revolutionizing long-held beliefs about emotions. Traditionally or classically, emotions were thought to be automatic, hardwired reactions—something we have little control over. But Dr. Barrett makes a compelling case that emotions are actually constructed in the moment. This is good news if we allow ourselves to believe it—with greater control over our emotions, we have the power to avoid many of life’s emotional traps.
 How to Work a Room >>> This book from Susan RoAne is a classic from 1988. I picked up this book early in my career and the lessons learned have served me very well. The book has been updated several times and now also covers some of the new and different rooms that exist (virtual/digital rooms). I’m posting this book with Meetup down in OTHER TOOLS, as they go hand in hand. We really are made for each other, but it’s not uncommon for people to have some discomfort with new situations—a room filled with strangers can be scary business. Susan does a really nice job of helping to take the fear out of the new rooms we walk into. BONUS: Here’s an interview Susan RoAne did with The Art of Charm from week  under AUDIO CONTENT.
 Tribe by Sebastian Junger >>> This book explores tribal societies for meaning, loyalty, and belonging. Sebastian Junger makes the case that we are stronger together—and how that can be achieved even in the divided world we find ourselves in today.
 Daring Greatly by Brené Brown >>> Brené is a “researcher storyteller” (per her TED talk that is worth a watch). This book explores shame and vulnerability and what that does to our lives, families, places of work, politics, etc. The link posted here is to Brené’s BOOKS & CDS page.
 The Behavior Gap by Carl Richards >>> This book dives into the space between what we should do financially and what we actually do. His audience includes financial planners, but his content is digestible by all. The posted link is to Carl’s BOOKS page, which shows another book he’s written (I’ve not read the other one yet). I’ll add his blog and Facebook page to this list sometime soon to the BLOGS section.
 The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor >>> Shawn Achor was a teaching assistant for Tal Ben-Shahar’s Positive Psychology class at Harvard from week  in VIDEO CONTENT below. I’ve posted the Amazon link, but I’m sure you can find it other places. BONUS: Shawn also has a TED talk.
 StrengthsFinder 2.0 >>> A book and online assessment aimed at helping us identify our strengths with the idea that it’s far better to pay attention to our strengths than our weaknesses. The link posted here takes you to a purchase site with 2 other books from Gallup (last I checked this one was $16 from Amazon). TIP: Do NOT buy a used copy—you need the code for the online assessment.
 The Behavior Gap Blog >>> This blog is written by Carl Richards from BOOKS in week . At SMMB, we use self-awareness to ultimately pursue a life of congruence, meaning, and fulfillment. Carl does the same in many ways for better financial life decisions. And he’s known for taking complex ideas and making them simple with his minimalistic black and white drawings.
 Kyle Maynard’s Blog >>> This guy may be one of the best stories I know that proves “If you can believe it, you can achieve it!”—it just might be more true than we currently realize. This post is a good one to start with (and features an inspiring video).
 The Minimalists >>> This blog explores the idea that we should love people and use things, as the opposite never works. Fantastic content and they are also about to go on tour!
 Double Rainbow >>> My wife says no one else thinks this is funny except me. Well 44 million people can’t be wrong! Paul “Bear” Vasquez and I share a nickname—in high school, my friends called me “the Bear”—that might be where our commonalities end, but I love his video. He says he wasn’t on drugs “that” day. And to him, he was experiencing God. I won’t judge that either way. For me, I watch this video every now and again and his pure joy, delight, amazement, and overwhelm makes me laugh, makes me happy—I’ve actually laughed so hard, I’ve cried (not from emotion, just from pure laughter). Maybe my wife is right, but I utterly enjoy the Double Rainbow! As with some of the other videos posted here and more that I’ll post at some point, I encourage you to put together your own happiness library. What do you watch that makes you come alive inside?
 Serenity Now! >>> This is from one of my all time favorite Seinfeld episodes for two reasons—(1) it’s funny and it makes me laugh (a good and healthy thing) and (2) it reminds me that chasing BETTER is not about suppressing our stresses and struggles, even those are part of the journey! If we try to suppress the negative, we unfortunately also suppress the positive—don’t do that!
 Oprah’s YOU GET A CAR! >>> Embracing joy will improve our lives dramatically—even just witnessing joy can have positive effects. This video is one of my favorite moments of pure joy and it makes me smile every time I watch it. And hearing how Oprah Winfrey remembers it adds something extra!
 The Best Part of My Day from Good Will Hunting >>> I love this scene. To me, it calls out to all of us—that we are only limited by what we allow ourselves to be limited by. Unless we are 100% engaged in the life we are living, I hope we won’t be “hanging around here for the rest of our lives.”
 TED talk by Amy Cuddy >>> I almost put this one under OTHER TOOLS. Amy Cuddy is a social psychologist. In her talk, she explains how body language can change how others perceive us and how it can actually change our body chemistry—which can change how we perceive ourselves.
 Minimalism >>> A documentary from The Minimalists, pushing loving people and using things, as the opposite never works. Also, how much freer would we be to pursue our dreams/goals (after becoming more self-aware) if we were not so bogged down by the expense/cost of consumerism?
 Happy >>> A documentary on happiness and what actually makes people happy. This is the link to the documentary’s website ($2.99 for the movie), but can be found on Netflix and I’m sure other places.
 Harvard Positive Psychology 1504 >>> Video taped lectures from this highly popular class (largest of all time?) at Harvard from a few years back (2011). Really great information on positive psychology and seeking happiness. There are links to 13 of 23 lectures in the show notes (click on SHOW MORE).
 Happier with Gretchen Rubin >>> Gretchen is the author of our book this week, The Happiness Project. 118 episodes strong (as of this writing)—there’s bound to be something that resonates to help you find BETTER!
 How to Become Batman >>> This is an episode from the podcast I posted below in week , Invisibilia. First off, an amazing example of overcoming challenge is found here. But the reason I chose this particular episode is to highlight the point about our impact on others—in this case, even our expectations of someone can shape what they believe is possible for themselves. How we speak to people (particularly children) can become the way they speak to themselves—their inner voice. This is powerful stuff!
 Pivot Podcast >>> For anyone that has come to a place where a career change seems like the right next step, here’s a podcast from Jenny Blake and her Pivot Method. Jenny is an ex-Googler that helps people to discover new ways to execute on what is already working well for them. Her idea is to take our strengths, certain favorable aspects, and experiences of a current or past career and pivot on them if/when the time comes to make the change to a new career.
 Seth Godin’s Startup School >>> Admittedly, this will definitely not be for everyone, but for those of you out there that are interested in learning more about starting a business (whether you actually want to do that or not), this is a really fantastic podcast. And almost anything Seth Godin does is amazing. ***and a shout out to my friend Nelson for sharing this one with me—with that in mind, please let me know or share it on the SMMB FB page if there is any content that you’ve found particularly valuable in your journey.
 Sane Show >>> A podcast from Jonathan Bailor and his SANE Solution pushes a modern message of wellness, challenging decades old theories that have led to record levels of obesity and widespread UNwellness.
 The Art of Charm >>> A helpful podcast from The Art of Charm to deepen connection in nearly any social setting (work or personal).
 Upstanders >>> This is a podcast that features a collection of stories about people doing extraordinary things.
 Invisibilia >>> This is a fascinating podcast that investigates the invisible and psychological forces that shape the world.
 Community >>> There is a Harvard study from 1979, the Alameda County Study, that studied a group of 7,000 people between the age of 35 and 65. After nine years, it was concluded that those with no social or community connections were three times more likely to die of a medical illness, THREE times! I keep saying it (and doing my best to live it)—we are made for each other. And I believe we are more connected than we fully realize. When someone smiles, we smile. When they yawn, we yawn. When we see someone get hurt, we wince in pain almost as if we feel it, too. When someone cries, we cry (ok, maybe that’s just me). But you get my point. Volunteer, mentor, engage more actively with the people you interact with everyday. That person that hands us our coffee every day, the random souls we share so many moments with in line, the coworkers that we work with year after after year, the family we sleep under the same roof with every night—are we taking full advantage of these amazing human beings that we get to do life with? I know I don’t all of the time, but I’m striving to get better at it. Community—a huge contributor to finding BETTER!
 Permission to be Human >>> A positive outlook or positive mindset is not the same as blind positivity or Seinfeld’s Serenity Now—from week . It’s just not. I read an article this past week that tried to make that argument and, I’ll be honest, it really bothered me. It made me examine the positive mindset part of the SMMB message that I’m trying to push out, but it was also personal to me. A year ago (almost to the day—May 24), I started to recognize that my mindset had turned relatively negative. And since that time I’ve studied, listened to, and watched a lot of content covering the science of positive psychology. And it’s made all the difference—I know, I’ve said that before a few times here already. But yes, blind positivity—that ain’t good. Burying or ignoring the things in life that challenge us, that frustrate us, that cause us pain—only stays buried for so long. But a positive mindset says this—Things don’t necessarily happen for the best—and that hurts and it sucks (ie, permission to be human), but some people can make the best of things that happen. This comes from Tal Ben-Shahar and his Harvard 1504 class—see VIDEO CONTENT week . In one lecture, Tal described his own story—the same story told from two differing viewpoints, the fault finder and the merit finder—the one gives into the hardship, blame shifts, throws itself a pity party. The other recognizes over-generalization, takes responsibility, avoids all or nothing thinking, steers clear of disqualifying the positive, doesn’t jump to conclusions, and eliminates should or must statements—and instead seeks to view the stumbling block as a stepping stone, chooses to focus on the silver lining instead of the cloud, appreciates what was experienced vs what was lost. Have a positive mindset, yes 100%—our lives and those we touch will be the better for it, but be human first. And for sure, let’s not linger there for too long, there’s far too much living left to do. My last thought on this—I read a sign in a store window this week that went something like this—Isn’t it a beautiful thought to think that, as good as life has been, many of our very best days are yet to come. I love you all. Let’s go find BETTER!
 Free Time >>> We all need time for renewal—to rejuvenate. And this will look different for everyone, but the common traits will be something enjoyable, something that allows for escape from the day-to-day, and something that is very specific to and for the individual—this is ME time. Covey would call this sharpening the saw (the 7th habit—of highly effective people). For me, my top three (for the moment) are basketball, golf, and massage. Basketball I’ve kept up over the years, but to be honest I stopped enjoying it until recently—I was there playing, but not really present. It’s been a subtle shift in mindset, but for the past few weeks I’ve viewed playing ball as a kind of sanctuary for me—a time to be enjoyed, because I know I’ll feel energized afterward if I really allow myself to fully participate. It’s allowed me to play better, with more zeal, energy, and presence. As for golf, it’s been harder to do with two young boys the past 6 years—but going forward, I’m committed to golfing at least once per month (during the golfing season, which isn’t long where I live) and I’m anxious to see how my new mindset around free time might change my golfing experience. And as for massage, I had one today for the first time in about 3 years—it was amazing! For the longest time, I’ve envied a guy that I used to work with that had a monthly massage on his calendar—but no more, as I’ll now be prioritizing this on my own calendar. If we don’t take care of ourselves, it makes it harder to take care of others. And the irony of adding free time to already very busy schedules is that our levels of energy, efficiency, and productivity will actually increase. What is important to you? What do you enjoy in life? If anyone went and looked at your calendar right now, is there any evidence that you have these important and enjoyable things scheduled into your life? And if they are, are you fully participating and cherishing the time you’ve blocked out. A final thought on this—I’ve thought about scheduling a monthly massage for close to 10 years—as much as our brains can trick us into believing we’ve actually done something already when in reality we’ve only thought about it, thinking and doing are not the same thing.
 Alone Time (or not) >>> This is a blog post from The Minimalists blog under BLOGS in week . One of the minimalists is an introvert, the other is an extrovert. In this piece, Joshua Fields Millburn discusses his need for and importance of alone time, but he doesn’t prescribe this to everyone. And I agree with him, we are all unique and must learn to better understand what it is we need in order to optimize how we are interacting with our world. BONUS: this post includes another version of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessments similar to the one posted here back on week . I think there is some value in taking two different, but similar assessments to see how the results may or may not vary (mine didn’t) and the write ups may be slightly different, too.
 Notes of Gratitude >>> This has been a bittersweet and emotionally draining week for me (so only this one item being posted—sorry, but it’s a good one). I told a team I’ve been working closely with and for—people that have mentored/coached/managed me, people that I’ve had the pleasure and fortune to mentor/coach/manage/serve, people that have become like family in many ways—that I’ll be moving on to another opportunity, that my last day working with all of them will be next Friday. It was hard on some and for sure on me. But as I go through final 1:1 conversations (as co-workers—we’ll stay in touch and I’m excited for how relationships will shift and grow), everyone has been super gracious and supportive thus far. At the beginning of the week, my coach challenged me (coincidentally and among other possible options) to keep a gratitude journal and to send an appreciative text or email to someone every day, as part of strategies to gain more energy and vitality. And it was perfect timing for this week. I did send at least one text or email each day to a person or group of people to express my heartfelt and genuine appreciation. And I have to tell you, it felt amazing—amazing while just writing the note, also in thinking about how the recipient would feel reading the note, and then again when reading responses from people that I care deeply about. For me, these notes absolutely did add energy and vitality to an otherwise energy-draining, exhausting week. I’ve found that I’ll often think, but never actually say or express the compliment or the positive thing I’m thinking about someone—and because I’ve had the thought, my mind somehow tricks me into thinking I’ve properly communicated the appreciation or compliment—and then I wonder why someone isn’t feeling the love from me. If you like this idea, if you feel like you might be missing out on some joy, happiness, or connection—I encourage you to challenge yourself to send out at least one text or email of appreciation per day this week. I think you’ll be surprised at how good it will feel to the people you reach out to—AND to you. Gratitude really is the breeding ground of true and genuine happiness, but sharing gratitude takes things to a whole new level.
 Leave It Better Than You Found It (and People, too) >>> So this week, I’m trying to make the argument for othermindedness. The BOOK I posted will bring more compassion to self and others (among other things). The podcast in AUDIO CONTENT argues for the power of expectation and what that can do for how others live their lives. This TOOL lacks ancient wisdom and intellectual complexity—and frankly has the potential of being gross and a little nasty, depending on how far you want to go with it. We’ve all heard the saying “Leave it better than you found it”. Well, I do a little cleanup, leaving a place better than I found it to build the habit of leaving people better than I found them. This can mean cleaning a table at a coffee shop, picking up litter, or tidying up a public restroom (I know, YUCK! But at least there’s always plenty of soap and hot water!). I’m not perfect, but I do feel like this little exercise is helping me to be more mindful of my interactions with others—family, friends, strangers, or anyone else.
 Sleep >>> This one is directed 99% back at me and 1% for any of you that read this page. I do NOT get enough sleep on a consistent basis. I’m beginning to see the lie in telling myself I don’t need as much sleep as the average person. And as much as I really hate to admit it, I can see that I’m currently trending toward some real problems. Maybe you find yourself in a similar boat? I’ve found a few things that are helping me to see and hopefully will eventually convince me to break my sleeplessness pattern. Here’s a great article from TIME that’s a relatively quick read that hits the high (or low) points of the pitfalls of sleep deprivation. It’s actually really shocking what is being discovered—the impact on physical and mental healthfulness. I’m also amazed by what we are learning about what the brain is doing when we sleep—it literally cleans itself. And emotionally, our brain regulates the impact of the “traumas” we experience—some are making the claim that lack of sleep is pronouncing the effects of PTSD. And the ultimate scare tactic—a couple of studies have shown higher mortality rates in the study period for those that got less sleep vs more sleep (which one could argue is not causal, but combined with all the other studies and what we are learning, I’m not sure that’s a gamble I’m willing to play with). For a longer, more detailed look at the issue, I suggest Arianna Huffington’s book, Sleep Revolution (I added this one to BOOKS above, too). The last thing that I’ll leave you with is a mobile app called Sleep Cycle. This app listens to you as you sleep (ok, just a little creepy) and wakes you in a window of time that you set where you are sleeping the lightest and most likely to wake easier. The app also tracks your sleep quality–here are my recent numbers: 48%, 71%, 67%, 59%, 58%, 61%, 51%—see I told you this post was directed 99% at me!
 Morning Routine >>> One of the bigger themes that will play out here on the SMMB website is the idea of waking up from and/or avoiding life on autopilot—or worse, auto-IGNORE. For this week’s OTHER TOOL, when our habits aren’t what we would hope for or when we feel like we’re going through the motions in life, a morning routine just may be part of the answer for more active and engaged living. A morning routine can cover anything from personal/spiritual to health/fitness to career/effectiveness and almost anything in between. If you start the day checking your inbox or literally running to get out the door, again a morning routine might help you to start the day off on your terms vs responding to what the world is asking of you. I’ve only recently started doing this more regularly myself and can tell you it’s made a world of difference in how much more accomplished and present I feel about my day. Here’s my morning routine—I’m sure it will change over time: drinking a big glass of water, 10 minutes with Headspace from week  below, a gratitude practice (I’ll expand below), a quick stretch session with push-ups and sit-ups, a shower (finishing with cold water for as long as I can take it—not long), and then I’m off and running to make lunch or help to get the kids ready (on mornings that I can). Once at work or the night before, I try to think about MY agenda for the day before hitting the inbox—planning my day is proactive, responding to email is reactive. What we call human nature in actuality is human habit—I can’t remember who said that, but someone smarter than me. A morning routine and a more proactive posture to start the day will begin to create the habits we actually want to live by—we begin to shape our life vs allowing life to shape us. I challenge you to give it an honest effort (21 days)—I’d be shocked if you didn’t see positive results.
 Gratitude Practice >>> Positive psychology would argue that a grateful life is a happy life—and I think it’s true. Many thought leaders and teachers suggest a practice of gratitude as a way to begin to live more optimistically. This can take many different forms and there are no set rules of how to practice gratitude. A gratitude journal is one of the more popular approaches—journaling or simply listing the three to five things that one is grateful for, which can be big or small, before bed or one of the first things in the morning. Some people actually journal and others just pause and create time and space to think about such things. Another idea or twist on this that I use, is a gratitude album on my phone. I have added images (and will continue to add more) of things that I’m grateful for—pictures of family and friends, a landscape, a quote, a meme, a moment, a document—literally anything that reminds me of something or someone I am grateful for. I either just flip through the pictures or on my iPhone (and I’m guessing any phone), I can easily watch a slide show of the album that is set to music. I was surprised how powerful some of the feelings and memories were the first time I tried it. This gratitude practice, however it’s done, is an amazing way to start or end a day.
 Meetup >>> This is an incredible company. Using their website or their mobile app, you can find people to connect with in nearly any city in the world about almost any topic or interest you can think of. I am more and more convinced that we were made for each other. If you are looking to live more connected, this is just one more way to get together with other like-minded, welcoming people to do things, to play, to talk, to teach, to learn from, and on and on—the result will be more life to your living and more growth to your growing.
 Volunteering >>> If you are reading this, chances are you have it far better than most people in this world (including right in your own community)—so many people and organizations will benefit from what you will offer them. But there are a lot of self-serving reasons to volunteering, too. Here are three:
- You’ll learn about yourself as you work with volunteer coordinators, fellow volunteers, and the people you are serving.
- You will grow your network, making new contacts to connect others—if you add value to your network, you’re network will add value to you if/when you need it.
- Friendship—some of my best friends are people I met through volunteering. And it makes sense, as chances are you will share a like-mindedness with those that also choose to volunteer where you do.
Start by thinking about what you’d be interested in doing and who you’d be interested in helping. Volunteer Match is a good place to start looking, depending on what city you are in or just Google volunteer opportunities in your area.
 Headspace >>> This is a mindfulness app—this one is free at first and a good intro to meditation. And there are countless other resources easily found on the Internet or in your mobile app store. Mindfulness is becoming more and more popular, as people begin to discover the benefits of this practice. The concept of physical fitness has been around for decades. I believe we will start to see a similar industry of mental fitness emerge. Studies have shown that mindfulness can actually change structures in the brain in as little as eight weeks—8 weeks! BONUS: Here’s the related TED talk and Blog for more information.
 Teaser Exercise in Self-Discovery >>> Doing the simple exercise of asking yourself certain pointed questions can be very important in your search for self-awareness. The Live Your Legend link from week  below is a good place to go for some resources on this. But as a teaser, here are some sample questions to consider:
- Get into the way-back machine—what were some of the different things you wanted to be growing up? Then dig a little deeper to see if there is a reason, characteristic, or some meaning behind any of the “dream” jobs you had as a kid.
- What do you like to do in your free time? Think about some of the details of that (ie, the actual activity, alone or with people, what exactly do you like about it—anything that might seem important).
- Think about your experiences with projects, volunteering, work, and any other activities. What types of roles do you typically play? What were your strengths in those various endeavors? What did you enjoy?
- What do people tend to ask you about? What do they thank you for?
- What are you really good at? What makes you lose track of time when you are doing it? Are these similar things or very different things?
- If you had to work, but didn’t have to worry about money AND you knew you were going to die in 5 years, what would you decide to do? What changes would you make?
- If you could wave a wand and create the perfect life, what would that look like? And push aside what you are supposed to do or the traditional path you’ve been sold—we are dreaming here! Where would you live? How would you live? Would you own a house or not? A car? What work would you be doing? Relationship? Kids? Traveling? Other activities? Community? What is important to you?
Again this is a teaser, a sampling of the kinds of questions you can ask to learn more about yourself. The intersection and overlap of the answers will end up telling you a lot. You will likely be surprised by the common thread(s) that run through your answers. Combine this with the results of assessments you take and you will begin to have a better start at understanding who you are and what you want. TIPs: Do this when you have time and a space to focus on it. And consider doing this exercise vocally, recording yourself before writing everything down—this allows for you to freely flow through your thoughts and also allows you to hear nuances, inflections, and other things that might tell you a little more than just seeing the words on paper.
 StrengthsFinder 2.0 ***THIS IS A COPY+PASTE FROM BOOKS IN WEEK  AS I DIDN’T WANT IT TO GET LOST AS A TOOL AS THE LIST STARTS GETTING LONGER >>> A book and online assessment aimed at helping us identify our strengths with the idea that it’s far better to pay attention to our strengths than our weaknesses. The link posted here takes you to a purchase site with 2 other books from Gallup (last I checked this one was $16 from Amazon). Tip: Do NOT buy a used copy—you need the code for the online assessment.
 9types.com >>> This link will take you to an Enneagram test. Enneagram is a personality typology that attempts to identify our psychological motivations. I’m not totally sold on this assessment yet (only because the results are a little inconsistent for me), but combined with other assessments it may help in gaining a better understanding of self. Take the test and then go to the Types tab to learn more about your type. Take it again (it’s short) if the type doesn’t quite seem to fit.
 Live Your Legend >>> An organization that seeks to help people find work and life that is more aligned with who they are. Live Your Legend offers some free tools designed to help you with self-awareness.
 16Personalities >>> A free online personality test based on Myers Briggs. Granted personality alone won’t tell you all of your strengths or what you might be interested in or what you want out of life, but it does tell you a bit about you and how you might interact with those around you.
Let’s go find BETTER!
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